As you sit across from a commitment-phobic man on a date, you might never know it. As we enter our fourth decade in life, most of us start looking for something serious, so we only date people who say they're looking for something serious too.But there's a problem that almost every single girl over 30 has encountered: __After 30, almost everyone says they're ready to settle down, even if they're not.__In our 20s, it's normal to not be ready to marry, so a disinterest in lifelong commitment at this age is no big deal. It's fairly easy to tell that a guy in a bar checking out other girls or spraying champagne in every picture on his dating profile might not exactly be marriage-minded.
At this point, she’s in deep too – she’s invested so much into a relationship that she hopes will someday happen, but has yet to ever make its debut into reality.
There is one bright side to being burned by a man like this, and it's this: You are capable of loving someone.
You can look another person in the eye and tell him you love him, and you can squeeze that person tightly and make him feel it. And while it's wrong of them to waste your time, just know that this experience only validates that you, my friend, are able to love.
If you are with a commitment phobe, you may notice disinterest or apathy whenever you bring up the future. Yes, they love you, but there are brutal truths that you must recognize if this type of relationship will work. There is much less certainty in the relationship We are not only talking about marriage and the distant future, but also about the little things in the very near future.
Your commitment phobic lover might not confirm on dates, weekend plans, or even vacations until the last minute.