And did all that drama go on for months or even years wasting valuable time and so much energy that you felt exhausted (or even lost faith in love)?
You knew the situation wasn’t healthy, but you stayed because you really loved him, right? I’ve found that drama-filled relationships typically have at least one partner who struggles with low self-esteem. If you’re not what he’s looking for, he’ll just move on.
Growing up, it sometimes feels like the only advice you get from anyone, no matter what it’s about, is to be more confident.
Parents, women’s magazines, movies, TV shows, books, and teachers are constantly sending the message that low self-esteem will ruin your relationships, your future, and your own mind.
I had been there for less than an hour before she showed up to quite literally drag me away (warning sign #3).
I forget what the excuse was, but it was some “togetherness” emergency – I had to go shopping with her for some trivial thing or other. In fact, that phrase – “I let her” – defined the majority of our relationship.
Research has shown key differences between individuals with high and low self-esteem.
For example, people with high self-esteem focus on growth and improvement, whereas people with low self-esteem focus on not making mistakes in life.
Almost every fight we ever had would escalate from disagreeing over what to rent at Blockbuster to threats of breaking up with me… I allowed her walk all over me because I was willing to put up with this.And if the sea gets rough, you need to guide it to safety.Stop thinking as a bystander in a movie, a fill-in. If he’s always blaming others and can’t look inward and admit when he’s made a mistake, that’s a big red flag.I’m not saying you should dump him if he lacks self-confidence from time to time (we all have our insecurities).